Comments on: Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Questions The Media Doesn’t Ask (2 of 5) http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/ Explaining and Discussing Washington Family Law Sat, 17 Jul 2010 03:13:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Why DSHS & The Courts Favor Reunification (3 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-72 Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Why DSHS & The Courts Favor Reunification (3 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog Mon, 18 May 2009 16:18:23 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-72 [...] this five-part series, I discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; and 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this [...] [...] this five-part series, I discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; and 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this [...]

]]> By: Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Why Public Outcry May Not Help Her (5 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-65 Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Why Public Outcry May Not Help Her (5 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog Sat, 16 May 2009 07:02:25 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-65 [...] five-part series, I have discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this case; 3) Why DSHS and the Courts usually prefer reunification [...] [...] five-part series, I have discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this case; 3) Why DSHS and the Courts usually prefer reunification [...]

]]> By: Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: An Attorney’s Perspective (4 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: An Attorney’s Perspective (4 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog Sat, 16 May 2009 06:56:05 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-62 [...] of this five-part series, I discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this case; and 3) Why DSHS and the Courts usually prefer [...] [...] of this five-part series, I discussed 1) The fight between DSHS and Poca’s foster family; 2) Some vital questions the media is mostly ignoring on this case; and 3) Why DSHS and the Courts usually prefer [...]

]]> By: Prue http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Prue Fri, 15 May 2009 03:55:46 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-57 Hello, A friend told me about this series. To be brief, our family wanted to adopt more children after adopting privately and I will tell you attempting to adopt in the foster care system was unbelievable. No one seemed to really care we were there....actively choosing to adopt in the United States. They kept wanting us to foster. We were interested in adopting only. This is rather unknown to them, I think they think of adoption as a failure on their part or something. We don't! That's how we, and so many of the adoptive families we know make our incredible heart filled families. Anyway we lived a nightmare while in the system on this journey and two years into it RAN from this system. The system is not well. The kids might be complex with all they've gone through, yet it is the adults in the system that we have chosen to leave and not return. Another family we started this journey to adopt with did the same thing and they ran to a private adoption instead. Ironically when I think about it when we first started pursuing adoption and had to take these foster classes, the agencies we interviewed to adopt a foster child, they tried to talk us into adopting overseas because they didn't want to work with the state. These poor children here in the U.S. Too many people working in the foster care system I think are not trained certainly, yet I think they also are not trained to build families, rather they "place children" (or "kiddos" as they kept referring to them with this once removed innuendo) and these children do suffer because of the lack of model needed to build families and help them survive and thrive. Anyway this truly is brief believe it or not. We have so many stories about what we experienced and would love them to go somewhere to help others understand why solid families like our come forward (actively for two years!) and walk away. We (decent solid loving families)are out there and the system wouldn't have to be so desperate for families if they were healthier themselves and could not scare us away with the constant crisis model and incompetence. It was a lesson in feeling like they didn't need us when so many thousands of children are waiting. It was a lesson in watching chaos for the children we pursued who had stories that should have had them being adopted years before we saw their picture in a book. We wish so much the fostercare system had an investigative branch. It does not. Perhaps more change could happen when more people could openly tell their stories? So many state agencies have this kind of protective layer. How does this system that oversees others neglect and abuse not have a level of investigation for their own? This would be very helpful I think. Thank you for listening and please contact me anytime. Hello,
A friend told me about this series. To be brief, our family wanted to adopt more children after adopting privately and I will tell you attempting to adopt in the foster care system was unbelievable. No one seemed to really care we were there….actively choosing to adopt in the United States. They kept wanting us to foster. We were interested in adopting only. This is rather unknown to them, I think they think of adoption as a failure on their part or something. We don’t! That’s how we, and so many of the adoptive families we know make our incredible heart filled families. Anyway we lived a nightmare while in the system on this journey and two years into it RAN from this system. The system is not well. The kids might be complex with all they’ve gone through, yet it is the adults in the system that we have chosen to leave and not return. Another family we started this journey to adopt with did the same thing and they ran to a private adoption instead. Ironically when I think about it when we first started pursuing adoption and had to take these foster classes, the agencies we interviewed to adopt a foster child, they tried to talk us into adopting overseas because they didn’t want to work with the state. These poor children here in the U.S. Too many people working in the foster care system I think are not trained certainly, yet I think they also are not trained to build families, rather they “place children” (or “kiddos” as they kept referring to them with this once removed innuendo) and these children do suffer because of the lack of model needed to build families and help them survive and thrive.
Anyway this truly is brief believe it or not. We have so many stories about what we experienced and would love them to go somewhere to help others understand why solid families like our come forward (actively for two years!) and walk away. We (decent solid loving families)are out there and the system wouldn’t have to be so desperate for families if they were healthier themselves and could not scare us away with the constant crisis model and incompetence. It was a lesson in feeling like they didn’t need us when so many thousands of children are waiting. It was a lesson in watching chaos for the children we pursued who had stories that should have had them being adopted years before we saw their picture in a book. We wish so much the fostercare system had an investigative branch. It does not. Perhaps more change could happen when more people could openly tell their stories? So many state agencies have this kind of protective layer. How does this system that oversees others neglect and abuse not have a level of investigation for their own? This would be very helpful I think.
Thank you for listening and please contact me anytime.

]]> By: CC Tillett http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-50 CC Tillett Thu, 14 May 2009 07:34:28 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-50 The statement you made: Dependency proceedings are not open to the public, or the press. That is not correct. These proceedings have been open to the public since early 2003. CC Tillett Washington Families United Vice-President Child and Familiy Advocate www.washingtonfamiliesunited.net The statement you made:

Dependency proceedings are not open to the public, or the press.

That is not correct. These proceedings have been open to the public since early 2003.

CC Tillett
Washington Families United
Vice-President
Child and Familiy Advocate

http://www.washingtonfamiliesunited.net

]]> By: Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Foster Parents Vs. DSHS (1 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog http://decouplingblog.com/2009/05/little-girl-poca-and-our-foster-care-system-questions-the-media-doesnt-ask-2-of-5/comment-page-1/#comment-47 Little Girl Poca And Our Foster Care System: Foster Parents Vs. DSHS (1 of 5) | Decoupling Seattle Family Law and Divorce Blog Wed, 13 May 2009 06:26:39 +0000 http://decouplingblog.com/?p=1773#comment-47 [...] in part two of five, I  discuss some vital questions the media are mostly ignoring on this [...] [...] in part two of five, I  discuss some vital questions the media are mostly ignoring on this [...]

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